Relaxing with Change and Impermanence

 Introductory Meeting held on Thursday, March 8, 2018.  View Video Here.

altarWe can learn to be at ease with the change and impermanence in our life. Impermanence and change define life, yet we meet each experience with resistance  and attachment.  The dharma helps us to loosen our grip and relax with uncertainty.   As we rest with the ebb and flow of each present moment, we will naturally relax with impermanence and change.

In this five month program, you will be guided in a relaxed, focused meditation technique through which you can have a direct experience of the appearance of change in the midst of our innate pure and open nature.  Relaxing with impermanence and change not only helps us to meet the challenges in our life with equanimity, including the impermanence of life itself, our own and others. In this program, we will be using the subject of death and dying to work with our individual process.

We will also practice inquiry to help us uncover beliefs and ideas that limit our ability to open to our innate nature and to loving kindness for ourselves and compassionate presence for others.  Both inquiry and shamatha meditation can open a direct personal channel to experiencing the teachings that are life changing.

The program begins with a two day retreat on March 17 and 18, 2018, and  includes two weekend retreats, one day-long, and two weekly class series over a five month period. Participants will be encouraged to practice daily, and will meet personally with the teacher one time to discuss their practice and get questions answered. While some experience with meditation is helpful, the program is open to anyone who has strong intention and feels drawn to participate.

Program Curriculum and Schedule

Schedule Summary

The program will run from March through July, 2018. The teachings for the program will be given in two non-residential weekend retreats, one daylong and two weekly class series:

  • First Weekend: March 17-18, 2018, 9am – 5pm
  • Daylong: May 12, 2018, 9am-5pm
  • Second Weekend: July 21-22 , 2018, 9am – 5pm
  • First Weekly Class:  Thursdays, March 22 – May 3, 7-8:30pm
  • Second Weekly Class: Thursdays, May 31 – July 12.  (no class June 21) , 7-8:30pm

To benefit from the program, personal attendance at both the retreat sessions and classes is highly recommended.  However, the retreats and daylongs will be audio recorded if you cannot attend, and the weekly classes will be live streamed and video and audio recorded.

The first weekend retreat and the two class series can be taken on a stand alone basis.

Curriculum Summary

First Weekend: March 17-18, 9am-5pm: Relaxed Focused Attention: Quieting the Mind, Expanding our Clarity and Opening the Heart

  • This weekend will be focused on deepening our meditation. Through Shamatha meditation, we develop a relaxed, focused attention that brings clarity to our experience and a lightness and joy to our heart. Like the ebb and flow of the sea and the natural rise and fall of our breath, there is an immediacy and continuity to our moment-to-moment experience. As difficult mind states melts away, we begin to develop mental balance and our practice opens us to our innate joyful presence. In this retreat, Lama Pat will take participants through the stages of relaxed focused attention with teachings and meditations for each stage.

First Class Series, Thursdays, March 22-May 3, 2018, 7-8:30pm

  • In this class series, we will be using the stability and clarity developed through shamatha meditation to truly face and integrate our own mortality and impermanence, so that a new and fresh perspective on our life can emerge. We will be doing some exercises and meditations to help us to open to limiting beliefs and begin to integrate a fresh and more joyous perspective into our life.  Shamatha helps us to transform our state of mind and connect with our pure being and cultivate loving-kindness for ourselves.

Second Class Series, Thursdays, May 31-July 12, 2018, 7-8:30pm

  • The second class series will focus on how to be with others who are dying, so that we can be of benefit to others when they are facing impermanence.  With the practice of presence we can help others move into more optimal states of mind that supports a peaceful and loving transition.  Opening to our own fears and vulnerability allows us to open to the rich experience of presence with another.

Daylong May 12th and Second Retreat Weekend July 21-22, 2018: These retreats will focus on further integrating the material covered through meditation, teachings and inquiry.

Program Costs and Cancellation Policy

Program Costs

  • Tuition is a sliding scale: $450 – $550. Tuition includes the two weekend retreats, one daylong, the two weekly classes and one teacher interview. Partial scholarships are available, reducing the cost to $300: see information on the application form.
  • Membership in Sukhasiddhi Foundation is encouraged but not required. Membership information will be provided.
  • Travel: out-of-town participants must arrange their own transportation, meals and lodging during the two-day non-residential retreats.
  • The annual Sukhasiddhi week-long retreat in June is open to program participants, but is not included in the program tuition.

Payment of the program tuition may be made at the time of acceptance into the program, or a deposit of $150 paid  at the time of acceptance, and the remainder paid monthly. Membership dues are paid monthly.

All fees and dues paid to Sukhasiddhi Foundation are tax deductible as religious contributions.

Program Cancellation and Refunds

  • If cancellation is received prior to the start of the first program weekend, any monies paid are refundable except for a $50 processing fee.
  • After the first weekend/ prior to the start of the weekly class: $150 will be retained from the tuition payment or the deposit for the cost of the weekend; any other monies paid will be refunded.
  • Thereafter: no refunds if being paid monthly; a pro-rata share of the tuition will be refunded if full program was paid in advance.
Program Application Process

Application Process

If you are interested in joining thie program, please complete the online application form.  We will contact you for the next steps.  Also, come to or attend by video the information session on Thursday, March 8th.

Thank you for your interest!

Program Teachers


This program will be guided by Lama Pat.

Lama Pat (Pat Berube) first started meditating in 1975.  Prior to meeting Lama Palden in 1999, she studied with both western and eastern teachers including several pilgrimages and retreats in India.  Under Lama Palden’s tutelage, she completed both the full Shangpa Kagyu practices usually reserved for the traditional three year retreat and the four-year teacher training program.  In 2017, under the authority of Kalu Rinpoche, both Lama Palden and Lama Drupgyu authorized her as a Lama.  With immense gratitude for her teachers and the lineage, Lama Pat is excited to share these teachings with others that supports the natural unfoldment of innate wisdom transforming one’s life.  In addition to her dharma studies and teaching, she has been an RN for over 40 years and holds a masters in counseling psychology.  She also leads Sukhasiddhi’s Clear Light Institute assisting contemplative approaches to working with illness, death and dying..

In addition, Lama Döndrup, Lama Palden  or Annik Brunet may teach portions of the program Please visit the Teachers page for their biographies.